EFT & Anger (I'm Right, They're Wrong!)
(This article assumes you know how to apply the basic EFT process. If you are unsure, see my “EFT Guides/How To” pages)

The body pays a high price when we’re angry. Anger can cause muscle tension, headaches, poor sleep quality, increased stomach acid, digestion disturbances and creates allergies and or itching and more. It raises blood pressure and increases the risk of stroke as well as increasing background stress levels and so reducing our stress tolerance generally.

Anger serves a very useful purpose. The lesson contained within anger and making peace with it is to lead us to becoming more tolerant, compassionate and forgiving.

However, many see it as an emotion that shouldn’t be heard or expressed at all and that it’s wrong to get angry (many spiritual people, in particular, feel this way). Children who are angry at their parents may feel unable to express it because of the fear of punishment leading to feelings of powerlessness.

Whatever the circumstances, anger is often pushed down and left unexpressed. We may pretend that everything is OK and rush so quickly to forgive (because we should**) that we play at it and don’t truly forgive at all. Over time, unexpressed anger often comes out in an eruption when triggered by seemingly innocuous events and those we love are often the ones in the firing line.

It also breeds bitterness and resentment and this will affect us in all sorts of ways. Anyone actively working with the Law of Attraction will appreciate that resentment actively causes us to focus on lack and thus attract more of the same into our lives. This will create more anger and resentment attracting even more of the same and so the cycle goes on endlessly.

Some feel that anger is only given power by focussing our attention on it so one shouldn’t dwell on it and we should distract ourselves from it. My view is that if you feel angry then acknowledge it, look it in the eye and take responsibility for your reaction and work through it until you actually feel ready to let it go. Only then is heartfelt compassion and true forgiveness realisable.

With EFT we can genuinely release the anger in a non-violent way and move on. While it usually responds well with EFT, anger has some interesting qualities that can stop us from letting it go. Here are some examples followed by tips on how to get past anger that won’t budge.

Anger is often created when we feel we have been wronged in some way. This means we may feel fully justified or “right” to be angry. Letting it go somehow feels wrong and this insistence that “I’m right and they’re wrong” can keep us stuck. This may even leave us not even wanting to tap at all in which case we have a choice to make.

Sometimes letting the anger go feels like the other person has got away with it and so the only way to make sure the “baddy” is held in the spotlight of condemnation is to stay angry. Anger can be resistant if there is a feeling that appropriate justice has not been served.

Some refuse to let it go until there has been an apology even if the offender is unwilling to give one or may even be dead.

Those who bear grudges in life will often find that the intensity of their anger comes down very slowly even with EFT so keep tapping.

You’re angry! So use the words that fit how you feel including the swear words!

Here are some phrases to try to loosen the resistance to letting anger go. Use the ones that fit how you’re feeling. You can use these phrases as set-up statements then tap the tapping points saying “this anger”........................

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